When a child reaches puberty, the biological urge to have intimate relationships with the opposite sex becomes quite pronounced. Teenagers art not only faced with biological urges, but they are also living in an age where sexual content is widely available via television and the internet.
So the question is, can a teen balance an intimate relationship and school work?
To answer this question there are a few things that must be considered. Firstly, a teenager should at least be at the age of consent to be engaged in a sexual relationship.
Although the law allows teens who are sixteen and older to have consensual sex it still does not mean that they are emotionally or mentally ready for it. It is easy to think that sex is just a physical act but the truth is that it has far-reaching emotional effects.
Having a physically intimate relationship only works between people who have developed a sense of self, identity and self-esteem. The teen years are spent gaining life experiences that are supposed to produce that level of maturity. Having a physical relationship before being mature enough to handle it can lead to emotional damage that could affect many areas of your life.
There are numerous risks that a teenager takes by mixing sex and school. Some teenagers especially males tend to scoff at this idea as it goes against the cultural trend of boys getting “big up” for scoring with a girl. This, however, does not change certain facts.
1. There is the risk of catching an STD.
2. Teenage pregnancy can cause a girl to drop out of school.
3. The tendency to be jealous and possessive is increased if a relationship gets physical. This can be emotionally scarring.
4. Less time spent studying leads to drop in
All of these consequences can seriously affect a student’s ability to gain a sound education. Many adults find it difficult to maintain a healthy relationship and teenagers are at an even greater disadvantage because they are simply not ready or prepared to handle the responsibility and pressures it comes with.
Adolescence is a period of transition from childhood to adulthood. Until that transition is complete they are not ready to adequately handle a physical relationship. In the teen years, they tend to have an unrealistic outlook on the world.
They feel strong infatuations that they often mistake for love but then harsh realities set in, leaving them feeling like it is the end of the world. Many adolescents feel a sense of shame, unworthiness and grief when their relationships end.
A cheating partner leaves them heartbroken and depressed to the point where they cannot study and lose all interest in school work. This is one of the key reasons why sex and school do not mix.
It is hard to balance both at the same time. As much as it is tempting to get into an intimate relationship one has to practice self-control.
It is possible to be friends with someone without getting physical. Girls must be especially careful as boys tend to say whatever they think it will take to get what they want. Remember that boys are often praised by their Peers when they sleep with a girl. Girls, on the other hand, are seen in a far less positive light, often being thought of as being promiscuous.
A lot of teenagers believe that when they “fall in love” it is the love of their life but the truth is that these feelings will fade but making bad choices based on such feelings will having lasting consequences.
Why should you take on the stress of adulthood before you are ready? The teen years only come once, so make the best of it by focusing on what will make you an independent and well-adjusted adult and that is a good education.